I am a firm believer that one of the major life lessons for women to learn is how to take care of herself. On the other hand, I believe that the life lesson for men is to learn to care for others.
The original woman has a natural inclination and disposition to care for others, nurture others, help others achieve their dreams, see the good in others, and give to others. She cares, nurtures, encourages and gives to others naturally, but she often has to learn the skills to direct all these positive attributes towards herself. She works hard inside and outside the home. If she’s unaware of what is going on with her body, she can work to the point of neglecting her own mental, Spiritual, and physical health. She often works until illness or disease forces her to stop to rest.
She’s so in her element working 24/7 that when she sees her husband or children resting and relaxing, it angers her. It angers her because she has not afforded herself the luxury of rest and relaxations. After all, in her mind there’s always more work to be done.
I have come to recognize that she must turn inwards and be self-aware. I have counseled with hundreds of women about the airline’s golden rule – put your oxygen mask on first before attempting to assist others. That message is especially for the women on the plane. Self-care is not selfish. To the contrary, a happy, healthy, vibrant you is the most precious gift you can give your family and friends. Investing in your health and vitality will ensure that your family can enjoy you for as long as possible.
To drive a luxury car, you have to put premium gas and oil in the car. If you do not do so, the car will quickly deteriorate and the engine will be ruined. The same goes for the human body. We have to put in premium fuel – fruits, vegetables, purified water, herbs and vital supplements to keep going. We can’t wait for the engine to break down before take the luxury car in to the mechanic. No. We preemptively take the car in for oil changes and tune-ups to stay safe on the road. The same goes for the human body. We can’t wait until the engine is down (virus, infection, etc.) before getting a tune-up. Instead, we should preemptively work with practitioners like massage therapists, chiropractors, herbalists, naturopaths, doulas, and the like to keep the body running smoothly.
I dish this advice out to clients all the time. However, apparently I have a tough time swallowing my own pill. A few months ago, an old shoulder injury started to hurt. I ignored the pain and worked tirelessly. It got progressively worse, and I continued to ignore it. I had been promising myself that I would get a massage for the longest, but I told myself every excuse in the book to procrastinate regarding the massage. Eventually the pain started to creep up from my shoulder to my neck. Before long my entire upper half was completely locked, and I was in excruciating pain. I could not look down, up or turn my neck at all. Getting dressed was a challenge. Driving was a challenge. I was rendered handicap by the pain.
Thanks goodness I know excellent chiropractor and massage therapist who were able to work me into their schedules with little notice. It took several visits to become merely functional. Eventually, I got back to 100% functionality.
I had to take a good look in the mirror and ask myself some serious questions. Why did it take a full breakdown for me to see the massage therapist and chiropractor when I knew good and well I needed help? What excuses did I tell myself to ignore my own health? How much is my health worth to me? What task or activity is more important than attending a self-care appointment?
The illusion of lack of green currency is something that keeps a lot of women from investing in their health. I too suffered that lack mentality. But, when I began to think of what my spine is worth and the value of being able to utilize all my muscles without pain, the money for the appointments seemed trivial. I believe the body and our reality follows the mind. It was important for me to release the lack mentality.
Encouraging you also encourages me. Let’s together release fear, doubt and lack. Let’s together embrace abundance, self-love, self-care, and inner peace.
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