A limiting belief is a belief that dwells in the sub-conscious that has a limiting effect on what a person is able to achieve. For example, when you believe that you’ll fail at learning a new language because “language just isn’t your thing.” You’ll likely never even try to learn a new language, or if you do try, you won’t really give it much energy. Deep down, you don’t believe you can do it. You’ve adopted a stance – languages are not my thing. You can never accomplish more than what you think or believe about yourself.
So, that’s why I want to shed light on and release a collective limiting belief among many Black women. It has become common place for the Black community to expect, event plan on, our babies coming early. That is to say, it is common place for our babies to be born before 40 weeks. A common saying in the Black community is that you can "claim" something like a job, car, relationship, etc. before you have it. The idea is to set the intention and believe. It's not wonder that our babies are coming too soon as we have "claimed it."
I can’t tell you how many expecting moms I speak to who are having great pregnancies that even say “yeah, my baby will come early.” Where did this notion come from?
Despite the many environmental and socioeconomic conditions, Black babies are usually born fighters, however, they are usually born too early.
I was talking to an expecting young woman the other day, and she told me that her first born was 4 pounds. That’s definitely a small baby. I asked her if the baby was born early, she said no. I asked how many weeks were you, and she didn’t remember, but estimated it was somewhere between 34 – 36 weeks. I let her know that it was considered early and premature. She replied with “yeah, all my babies have come early, and that’s just how it is in my family.”
Now, every time I see her, I’m exploring options with her on how she can embrace the idea of going full-term.
I could share a lot of physical strategies with you about going full-term, but the truth is, your mind, body and Spirit need to first accept the idea that you can go full-term. It is possible for you. Just because you’ve had premature labor in the past, it does not dictate that that will be your future. Just because others in your family or friend circle have delivered early, doesn’t mean it has to be your fate. Just because someone made a trite remark about you being too big and about to explode and deliver any day, doesn’t mean you can’t go full-term.
The reason I’m so passionate about our Black babies going full-term and picking their own due date is because that’s the absolutely healthiest way to be born and embark on a long, healthy life.
Two very simple changes in the way we welcome our children into the world can have a massive, positive affect on our wellness as a community – carry to full-term and breastfeed.
Have you accepted, consciously or unconsciously, that you “can’t go full-term” or will “deliver early?” I would suggest you explore that belief so you can get to the bottom of where it came from.
Understand that it is a limiting belief. As long as you hold on to that misinformation, you’re automatically limited in the quality of pregnancy you’ll be able to achieve. Of course there’s much more to achieving a healthy pregnancy and birth, yet, I want to highlight this common limiting belief within our community.
Accept the fact that you can go full-term.
The very best way for a Black baby to start out in this world is to have all the time in the womb that the baby needs.
Learn about the top 5 limiting beliefs and roadblocks that keep Black women from going full-term and learn how you can radically shift your mindset towards going full-term.
Register for a free webinar, 5 Mindset Resets to Overcome Roadblocks to Delivering a Chunky Full-Term Baby, on Thursday, September 29 at 12 PM Central.
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