Love and Hip Hop New York has truly belabored the storyline of Mendeecees Harris and the mothers of his four children.
These women have clearly demonstrated that harmony in a blended family CANNOT exist in the midst of supersized, inflated egos.
These women have disrespected themselves to no end. They are the perfect example of how not to work together in a blended family.
It seems that each of them is willing to throw the next one under the bus to appear “right” or prove a point in the eyes of the audience. Unfortunately, the people who suffer the most are the children.
The tag line of these women this season has been, “I just want to keep these kids/siblings together.” Yet, their actions are totally opposite of that tag line.
Yandy, seriously, why do you have to reiterate on national t.v. that Erika was a “slide?” Why do you have to reduce her to a woman who participated in a relationship with a man who would not commit to her? If I had to bet anything, I’m sure that Mendeecees never referred to her as a “slide” when they were relating with one another. She seems to be someone who cared about Mendeecees in the past. It won’t hurt you to admit they had a relationship or at least stay silent on it. She deserves her dignity, just like you do. I’m sorry that your and her relationships with Mendeecees appear to overlap. That is not her fault. That is on him. However, it is so far in the past it can be forgiven and you all can move on. You win nothing by dragging her in the mud.
Samantha, you have a lot of pent up anger towards Yandy. There’s more bubbling beneath the surface that he viewers did not see. You are putting way too much energy in trying to discredit Yandy that you’re losing the focus of your own life. You could have used this LHHNY platform to push a business and further your career. You could build your own brand. However, you wasted your precious moments in the spotlight fussing over frivolous things. The B word is constantly flying out of your mouth and you don’t care who it’s directed at. It’s got to stop. I think some of this anger is towards your own self and maybe some of the decisions you’ve made in the past that you regret. You need to resolve that within yourself. You know that Yandy loves your son and I have seen her attempt to be cordial with you. You can at least return that gesture without putting stipulations that have nothing to do with the children.
Erika, we can all see you had a relationship with Mendeecees. Now it’s time to move forward in your life. People are always going to have an opinion about people on “reality” t.v. but remember that you’re not on trial. You don’t have to prove your case. Just be yourself and keep grinding and you will attract a tribe of people that love and accept you as is. Even under the circumstances, I believe Yandy loves your son too.
There is no problem between the children. Luckily, they are too young to really understand what is going on. However, if you all keep this up, it will negatively affect them.
The easy solution to this made up “problem” is to have a standing playdate for the children where they can meet up and socialize. This does not require you all to have resolved anything. All this can be arranged through a professional licensed mediator. It wouldn’t even require you to speak to each other. This can be a first step. If you do what you have to do individually to get over your own self and deflate your ego, I’m sure with time you’ll be able to coordinate directly with one another to bring them together on a regular bases.
Well, if anything, this season of Love and Hip Hop New York has shown young women how not to relate in a blended family situation. I’m hoping you can get it together so that you can show them how to heal after the hate.
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